Save the Drama for your Momma.

   Last week you got a little glimpse into the things that run through my head on a daily basis.  Basically, at least 3 times a day I find myself shaking my head and thinking "pull it together".  And let's be clear, I am in no way exempt from this advice, in fact, it's more of a personal mantra than a passed judgement.  That being said, what is our first official topic? Drama.

   Nothing makes you look more foolish than engaging in, creating, or enabling drama.  Who am I to offer advice on this subject?  A reformed, class A, record-breaking drama-queen. In my teens and early 20's I'm fairly certain I believed the earth revolved around me, and when life handed me a bad day? Well obviously it was the end of the world, and completely not my fault.  This mentality is the life-blood of drama.  So what's the first step to ridding your life of this character-sucking parasite?  Accountability.  Your situation, past, present, and future, is a direct result of your own actions and choices, no one else's.  If you are facing a pattern of "why me?", look to yourself for the answer.  Stop being a victim, step up and own your mistakes.  Fix them, accept them, and most importantly, learn from them.  This is the single most empowering thing you can do for yourself, because once you have accepted your flaws, no one can use them against you.

   Second step: stop airing your dirty laundry!  Bad things happen to everyone, yes, true story.  What defines you as a drama-magnet, is letting the world know about everything that doesn't go your way.  We all have bad days, we all have obstacles, but I promise you that someone out there is silently fighting a much more serious battle than you are.  Who are you to complain on social media about your divorce, the cold you can't get rid of, or the friend that stabbed you in the back, when a child is sitting in a hospital fighting cancer, or a mother is working 3 jobs to make sure her children don't go hungry?  Perspective.  Every situation could be worse, so don't make yourself look small and selfish by complaining publicly about whatever yours might be at this moment.  Pull. It. Together.

   And finally, stop saying you hate drama to everyone you meet, chances are the more you talk about hating drama, the more you are personally responsible for it.  Drama is not an entity, it does not "follow" people, it is created.  If it "follows" you, consider the common denominator in all your dramatic situations - Y.O.U.

Until next week, remember to respect and love yourself enough to want to be better.  When things start to get tough, shake it off, clear your head, and pull it together.

<3 Amy