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Pajama Pants aren't sexy.
I talk a lot about loving yourself, and owning your flaws, so why am I telling you to doll yourself up a bit when you leave the house(or sometimes even when you don't)? When you know you look good, you naturally feel better about yourself. When you feel better about yourself, you become confident, and confidence my friends, always fits, is always in style, and is ALWAYS sexy.
"I'm too busy to worry about being sexy, and I'm married anyway." DING DING DING! Your marriage should be every bit as important to you as your children. I've had plenty of conversations with lots of different people, and it is clear that keeping things spicy with your partner is both the hardest, and the most important part to a happy relationship.
We've all heard it said that you should "date your spouse", which I couldn't agree with more, but there is so much more to it than that. Yes, it involves work, but it is so worth it. Don't just seek to make your husband's jaw drop once a month for date night, find ways to make his jaw drop all the time (this goes for you too, guys). Am I saying that you can't change into sweats at 5 o'clock after a long day? Of course not, but don't let it become a uniform. You want your husband to look at you more often as a woman, than "the mother of his children". Maintaining a genuine lust for each other after years of sleeping in the same bed is a keystone to a happy marriage.
"But he should love me even if I don't get dressed up or have makeup on." Well of course he should! However, think about what gets YOU in the mood. Is it when he's just gotten ready to go out, he's smelling good, and freshly shaven, OR - is when he's half asleep on the couch with wing sauce around the corners of his mouth? This isn't deep, people, it's actually very superficial, but it's also physiology This is how we are hardwired, and if putting a little more time and effort into how you present yourself on a daily basis keeps your primal needs satisfied, then I say it's worth every minute.
The moral of the story is to remind your partner of what attracted them to you in the first place, and I'm not talking about your winning personality or your sense of humor. No, I'm talking about the moment he laid his eyes on you and immediately wanted more. So pull it together, ladies. Take the time, make the effort, and keep it sexy.